Dr. Stylianos Atechlys known as Daskalos (Teacher) once said that obsession is demonic possession. Something I have always thought was interesting is how quickly people introduce you to their issues. I believe that things end as they begin so I am always very interested in the first meeting I have with a person. How they approach relationship. The initial approach. If relationship is an approaching where two people begin to understand each other, than how we approach relationship is how we approach approaching. In the initial approach does the person approach authenticly and honestly or do they approach strategically? Do they approach me as a superior talking to a subordinate? Forcing a frame and trying to get me to participate? or do they approach me looking pathetic and trying to elicit sympathy? Do they approach me telling me how awesome they are and expecting me to agree? In the case of Charles Manson the first thing you see is the swastika carved into the middle of his forehead.
People flaunt their issues and attract attention to their issues. How many times do you start a conversation and the person ends it by saying, “god bless.” or “All I need to know is do you believe in Jesus?” The fact of the matter is that I do believe in Jesus but not the Jesus you believe in. I believe that Jesus in the quintessence, the fifth element, he was the incarnation of reason which is why they called him the Logoish, and I believe that god is the faculty of reason in man. So should I say no or yes?
The fact of the matter is that people are either rational and in relationship with truth and reality (which is much, much, rarer than you think) or they cling to morbid emotions and delusions and psychosis. Some people are traumatized in certain areas, and rational in others. When you stimulate a certain issue they enter a refractory state, but each individual has to be responsible for their own mental and emotional health and willing and desiring of being a whole person.
In relationship people will ask you in some form or another “are you a good person?” and this is stupid because psychopaths conceal their emotional morbidity and misrepresent themselves. They are manipulative. Psychopaths have to do the wrong things, they have to do things psychopathicly in order to work their will and attain their good. So stop asking people if they are good people, figure it out for yourself, stop exposing yourself to being manipulated, learn to recognize the behavior and challenge people to be mentally and emotionally healthy.
One of these people always lies and one of them always tells the truth. If I ask, “are you a good person?” the psychopath is going to be the first to respond very convincingly in the positive and they will probably even have reasons why they are a good person.
People understand themselves and agree with themselves. Contemplate that for a second. The world view of the individual makes them correct in their behavior. In order for them to be correct in doing certain things they have to perceive the world in a certain way. This is their gestalt. This is their philosophy, their soul. The problem is that people don’t enter relationship to understand the other person in the relationship which is a necessity. You have to understand how the other person in the relationship thinks. You have to understand the human organism. You have to understand yourself, only in understanding yourself correctly can you understand other people correctly in relationship to yourself. You have to understand the logical fallacies and the cognitive biases. You have to know your issues, what stimulates your issues, what puts you in refractory states, when you are in a refractory state should you act and what actions should you take, and how do you get out of a refractory state and back into a positive mental and emotional state. Do you act when you are in relationship with your morbid emotions? When do you act? Do you get good results, do you get the result that you desired? Why not? Why are you trying to get the result that you are trying to get? Why do you desire that result? Are your relationships based on shared diseases? or on allying yourself with the better angels of others?
The Psychopath has to attack. They can’t not attack. They can’t keep themselves from attacking and they are looking for people to attack and reasons to attack. They don’t have self discipline or self control. They can’t stop looking for the thing that they hate so they can kill it. Recent research suggests that feeling thwarted is the source of anger. Based on my Shared State Theory of Communication, we communicate whatever state we are in. So if we are in a state of feeling thwarted, we communicate thwartedness, and we want to thwart. But antagonizing the problem is not necessarily moving towards the solution. To use my terms something happened to the person that they never want to happen again, a state they want to avoid, but the psychopath is in relationship with desiring to kill the thing that they perceive as the cause of the state they want to avoid. But in doing so they are constantly restimulating the refractory state reminding them of the state they want to avoid. Which means they are keeping themselves in a permanent refractory state permanently, which Paul Eckman says is the same as being insane. They are obsessed with the thing they are trying to get away from. The only way the can rest is if that thing ceases to exist in reality. So we have the form of the conquest.